Elizabeth DiAlto “The Wild Soul Movement”
Interview with Elizabeth DiAlto of The Wild Soul Movement
Welcome to this week’s episode of Going Deeper. Today, we’re in La Jolla with Elizabeth DiAlto. She is the founder of the Wild Soul Movement. She’s helped thousands of women with their career, with their relationships, and with their mind-body connection. She’s also the author of Untame Yourself, and amazing person overall. I am just super excited to be on the water with her. If you like this video, please leave a comment, and hit subscribe. Thank you so much.
David Steel:
Here we are, out on the water. I’m super stoked today, with my dear friend, Elizabeth DiAlto. Just out here, playing with dolphins, which was incredible.
Elizabeth D:
Epic.
David Steel:
And, paddling, and checking out the caves in La Jolla, and, just so everybody can see how beautiful it is. Elizabeth has an amazing program, and it’s been helping women, entrepreneurs –
Elizabeth D:
Not entrepreneurs. Some are. Just women, in general.
David Steel:
Helping women for a few years now, right?
Elizabeth D:
Yeah, Wild Soul Movement is now, the idea is officially over three years old, and the program is about two and a half.
David Steel:
The program is doing really well.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
I know. I know because we were kind of in a mastermind together at the beginning of the year, and we did some check-ins with each other, for quite awhile. I used to leave our meeting and go,”Oh my God. This woman is, like, rocking and rolling.” Every month it would be like,”Oh, I’m going to do this and this and this and this.” It would be like what someone else would plan for a quarter or a year, and you’re like,”Yeah, we’re just going to do these things.” What was always interesting to me is you say it so matter-of-factly, like,”This is so.”
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
And, it is so.
Elizabeth D:
And, it is, yeah.
David Steel:
That’s so cool.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
Tell me –
Elizabeth D:
Do you want to know the trick to that?
David Steel:
Yes.
Elizabeth D:
So, this is a lot of my work is around integrating masculine and feminine. I really only ever take action on the things that I’ve sat and felt like I’ve received them, not that I’ve mentally figured out or made them up. Does that make sense? It’s the stuff that actually wants to happen, and wants to come through anyway. I kind of have life force behind it. It doesn’t actually require near as much energy. People ask me all the time,”How do you do so much?” I’m like,” Because I’m really only doing the things that have already kind of poked me and wants to happen.”
David Steel:
That makes so much sense.
Elizabeth D:
There’s energetic and life momentum behind it, so it’s pretty easy for me.
David Steel:
Oh wow. That’s super cool. I like that. I started doing this via podcast series because in our community, and for whatever reason, I’ve been meeting some really incredible people. I think that we all have our own unique genius and gifts, and some people really just bring it out in a way that helps the world and helps people. That’s what kind of really turned me on in your first segment, go through that year-end planning, and go through this stuff, and I’m like,”Wow. I hope we end up together, doing that check-ins and stuff with each other.” I love what you do. I guess what I’m interested to know is how did you come about doing what you’re doing? It’s kind of a journey. You don’t just end up being able to –
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
– Come up with it the way that you do.
Elizabeth D:
I love sharing this. There’s so many little points to the story, but the place where I’ll start and share with you is, for many years, I was in fitness. I was a personal trainer, and I would notice inevitably that, first of all, my clients, we would always be talking … I felt like a therapist. You know, in my training sessions? Yeah, we’d be working out, we’d be talking about nutrition and all those things, and my clients would get awesome physical results, but they also came to be nourished and loved on because that’s my personality.
What became really fascinating to me, that kind of started this whole inquiry in my own life and then turned into this eventually, is I would notice that people could eat well, do the exercise, get all the habits and behaviors down, but very swiftly, any kind of life, mental, emotional, financial, relationship thing could happen and wipe out the physical results with such ease. I became so much more curious about working in, rather than working out, if that makes sense. I got … I did a couple of [inaudible 00:05:18]. I started … People had given me feedback … This is back when I was living in New York City. I’m originally from the East Coast. I’m a New Yorker. I’m pretty driven, as you’ve noted. People were like,”No, you need to soften. You should be more feminine.” I’m like,”What the hell does that mean?” I didn’t think … I’m not prissy, I’m not super girly, in the way that I thought, so I also started studying feminine archetypes.
David Steel:
Wow.
Elizabeth D:
I was reading this book called,”Awakening Shakti,” by Sally Kempton, and I get to the Durga chapter who’s this fierce, warrior goddess, and it’s like,”Oh!” I’ve always been feminine, it’s just fierce, fiery, warrior feminine, not dainty, soft, you know? That really helped me once I started going on my own integrated path. Of course, people just started magnetizing to me, who needed that as well. I just started seeing, because our culture is very masculine, we get trained in the masculine arts from school age. Follow the rules, stay in the lines, do the thing, here are the steps, do this, this is what you need to do, achieve, achieve, achieve, accomplish.
But, no, unless you are blessed with a mom, or aunts, or grandma, or family, or whomever, who goes,”Yeah, but there’s this whole other mysterious side of you, that’s really miraculous. That’s where all the feminine gifts are.” A lot of us don’t even know that. Now, that’s kind of the role I play. I go,”Hey women! You’re not just a lovelier version of a man. There’s this whole,” and for men, too, which is cool, right? One of the things I’m going to start doing next year is inviting men in because we all just need that integration. It’s not just about, because it was my path and my journey, and I’d walked it, it was easy to take women under the wing and be like,”Yo. There’s this magical, mysterious part of us that most of us don’t know anything about.” I see the need, too, for men to come in and go,”Yep, I get to be both.”
David Steel:
That’s so cool. That’s so cool. It’s almost as if, when you were doing the fitness stuff, the training, you saw that people also needed balance in their life and every other area, or it just didn’t work. Then, that created the journey for you to discover the distinction in helping people to understand their unique side.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah. Yeah. Right?
David Steel:
That’s so cool.
Elizabeth D:
That’s why I love studying archetypes. I could geek out on that all day, archetypes, personality types. It’s that self knowledge and self understanding of how you express these things because it’s certainly not black and white. Even in different cycles and phases in your life. Even this year … Yeah, I really identify with the Durga, warrior, fiery goddess energy, but this year I was craving a softer, so I was like,”What’s this Lakshmi character all about?” A lot more compassion, and softness, and the beauty and the sweetness of life and incorporating that.
David Steel:
That’s so cool.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah, it’s so fun.
David Steel:
What are three or five tips for women to start to discover themselves?
Elizabeth D:
Something I teach that’s the core of everything I teach is that everything you’ve ever needed has always been inside of you. Even with that archetype stuff, that stuff was already in me. It’s not like I was learning how to be something I wasn’t. I was learning to express something that was already inside. Understand that all the outward reaching, trying to be like other people, mimic other people, sometimes that’s helpful to learn the rules, so you can break them. But, it’s really important that you eventually break them, and you go,”What’s my expression of this? What feels right to me?” The other thing you can do to be in your body, to get grounded, to be with your breath. This is why [inaudible 00:08:42] as a sensual movement process because it’s not a work out. It’s slow so you can actually feel, connect with your body’s unique language of the senses, know how your intuition speaks to you. The three things I tell people to learn how to do first, just understand when your body’s saying yes, when it’s saying no, when it’s registering things as truth.
David Steel:
That’s so cool.
Elizabeth D:
If you know your yes, you know your no, and you know your truth, it’s very easy to navigate things, which is the next point, which is how important to serve is. A lot of women say yes, they don’t have boundaries. They don’t say no, and they want to say no, in all context, and they end up tired, and burned out, and resentful. Things like Fibromyalgia or general fatigue starts to express physically when you’re not listening. Really pay attention. Get to know yourself, and really honor yourself. We think, in a lot of ways, that the most integrous thing we could do is be there for everyone else, but the highest form of integrity is honoring yourself. Most of us are not very well practiced in that. Sometimes that means you break commitments. Sometimes it means you choose your own health over self-sacrifice and being sick for even longer. It’s actually a high service, and it’s also a beautiful thing to be modeling for everyone else around you.
David Steel:
I love that. Thank you. That’s awesome. We are actually drifting into the surf.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
So, this will be really fun.
Elizabeth D:
Oh, yeah. We got to back this truck up.
David Steel:
So, this is the first I’ve had where we’re going to split for a second.
Elizabeth D:
Whoa. Those waves are breaking.
David Steel:
We’re still in it. We’re just going to have to paddle a little bit. Here. We could even go forward.
Elizabeth D:
Cool.
David Steel:
And, here we are.
Elizabeth D:
We’re back. We’re back out of the break.
David Steel:
No, we’re not out yet.
Elizabeth D:
We’re not?
David Steel:
We’re just going to paddle.
Elizabeth D:
You guys watching need to know how good David Steel is at the ocean, which if you’ve been watching the series, you already know that. He’s totally indoctrinating me into being someone who could be out here and not be afraid. And, not think everything is an emergency.
David Steel:
Tell us about your workshops or retreats or stuff that you do, and when is your next one?
Elizabeth D:
My next retreat is going to be in Grenada, Spain, February 17th through the –
David Steel:
Shut up!
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
I just love your life.
Elizabeth D:
Thanks. Me too. I make so many good choices.
David Steel:
You really do. Okay, I interrupted. Grenada, Spain.
Elizabeth D:
Grenada, Spain because I do, you know, with the podcast and everything, my audience, I have women all over the planet in my community. I know it’s expensive to travel and get flights and stuff, so I really wanted come up with something in Europe for those women who are always like,”I’m dying to come to one of your things. When are you going to come here?” I’m going to be in Spain. Then, I don’t have any real life events, not so many yet, on the calendar for 2017 yet, but there will be. I do Untame Yourself, just weekend intensive retreats, I do those in San Diego. Other than that, my new mentorship that I’m filling at the end of the year for next year, is called, Emerge. Every year, I kind of revamp, upgrade, and name my mentorship something different than the year before.
David Steel:
Look at this wave.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah, look at that. David Steel –
David Steel:
That’s a big one.
Elizabeth D:
David Steel’s like,”There’s no waves out here.”
David Steel:
There is now.
Elizabeth D:
There is now.
David Steel:
All right, we’re good. We made it.
Elizabeth D:
We made it?
David Steel:
I think. For a bit.
Elizabeth D:
Yeah.
David Steel:
That was fun. We were actually like a team, paddling.
Elizabeth D:
That was.
David Steel:
Each side.
Elizabeth D:
I’ve never done that. Team paddle? Like one of those bicycles.
David Steel:
Yes.
Elizabeth D:
Cool.
David Steel:
Life is so amazing.
Elizabeth D:
Isn’t it? I can’t. I’m in freaking awe. Oh man. If anyone ever tells you Heaven is not on Earth, you show them this video, and you go,”But, look.”
David Steel:
That’s the beach we almost just landed on.
Elizabeth D:
We about smashed into. It would’ve been fine.
David Steel:
Wow. Thank you so much.
Elizabeth D:
Thank you.
David Steel:
I really appreciate you. I really, really do. The more I get to know you, you have this fun energy about you that’s just contagious and really cool.
Elizabeth D:
Thanks.
David Steel:
So, thank you.
Elizabeth D:
What a great idea. I love this innovative … “I’m going to do a podcast, and it’s going to be on the ocean.”
David Steel:
There’s something about being in nature, and then, I love it when I’m on my edge, like if I’m challenging my … If something’s edgy, I have to do it, right? I’m doing a ridiculous pole dance performance next week.
Elizabeth D:
You’ve done it before. I saw your first one.
David Steel:
I know. I know. It’s super edgy for me. I do not consider myself very coordinated, a great dancer, or someone who wants to perform in front of a bunch of people, and I have to do all of that. Paddle boarding is really edgy for people. I’ve now interviewed seven people, and at least two of them were very on edge out here. It was cool. Then, one of my other friends, who’s an entrepreneur saw the video of us filming Leopard Sharks, which will be right over there when we come in, and it was a ten second clip, and he said,”I could absolutely not watch it. I’m so terrified of sharks, I couldn’t watch the ten second clip.” I’m like,”Guess where we’re going.”
Elizabeth D:
“Guess where I need to take you, friend.” Yeah.
David Steel:
Anyway. Thank you so much. I will include all of your info in the show notes and –
Elizabeth D:
Bye, everyone.
David Steel:
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Interview with Elizabeth DiAlto of The Wild Soul Movement
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